Ways That Alcoholism can Mess your relationship

 

Why are do you drink alcohol?

Some say they drink to fit in, others to forget their troubles, others to help them socialize because when sober they lack confidence, others because it is a habit they are too used to.

A lot of adults were introduced into drinking by their drinking parents or relatives, by a group of friends they hanged out with in high school or college, by a romantic lover they had, by a colleague at work who convinced them that with money they need to do over 18 things.

A lot of adults have alcohol problems. When you have alcohol problems, you will have relationship problems. The unfortunate thing about most adults who drink is that they dont admit they have a problem.

Here are some ways that alcohol can mess up your relationship/marriage;

1. It messes up your judgement

When you are not sober, you will not make the right long term decisions for yourself. Being high causes you to live for the moment. You keep damaging your future because you are living in the now. A relationship/marriage requires two people who see long term. This is why many who drink have been dumped by people who want something serious.

2. It makes you choose the wrong spouse

A lot of people who drink, do not marry someone who is ready for marriage and who will make a good spouse; they marry instead their drinking partner who they heckle and have sex with. This shaky foundation leads to a shaky marriage.

3. It threatens your job and progress

A lot of people who drink have either lost their job, lost business, received warning letters or failed to be promoted thus remaining stagnant in life just because they cannot be trusted with responsibilities. This has caused a lot of marriages to have conflict and financial strain.

4. It introduces you to environments that encourage the habit

When alcohol means a lot to you, you will find yourself going to where alcohol is in plenty. Your frequent places will be bars, adult parties and clubs yet you are a family person. This is why a lot of family men/women still act like they are single and in college. They will have time and money to spend where there is alcohol but fail to attend family gatherings, sober dates organised by their spouse, their childrens sports day, marriage seminars, enriching couple get together, counselling sessions and events for personal and professional growth.

5. It makes you defensive

People who love alcohol tend to be defensive and easily irritable even to their spouse and children. They push their loved ones away saying they are adults and it is their money so everyone else should shut up and mind their business.

6. It makes you waste your family money

In an environment where alcohol is the agenda, many are throwing away their family money to get high, buying others alcohol. If you calculate the amount of money you spend on alcohol in a year, you will be shocked how much investment for your children and family you could have made with that cash. Instead of buying drinks for strangers in a bar, find a way to impact society after you have taken care of your family.

7. It lies to you that you have good friends

A majority if not all the friends you drink with dont actually care about you. They are either passing time with you or using you to get them to buy you drinks. That is why they incite you mistreat your spouse, dare you to do things you shouldnt and talk to you about any scandalous or trending topic but not about who you really are inside and the state of your heart. If you lose your job or marriage, most wont be there for you. They will abandon you and find other drinking buddies to talk about you as the trending topic.

8. It makes you violent

Most violent cases in relationships/marriages occur when one or both parties are intoxicated, either at home or in public. Some couples are so used to this dysfunction that it has become normal to them.

9. It humiliates you

A lot of people dont remember what they do when they are high, some even urinate on themselves or vomit on strangers or say embarrassing things. When they meet their drinking friends, they laugh about it but the spouse and children get humiliated. As you laugh about the silly things you did, you are slowly eroding your reputation which will take a long time to rebuild. Those who are laughing with you are actually laughing at you.

10. It damages your health

There is a reason why by law, alcohol products are instructed to state the harm they can cause to health. Most adults who drink brag that they know their limit and for many, they keep pushing that limit. What you sow when your body is younger, you will reap in old age. Your lifestyle will soon catch up with you. Unfortunately for some, instead of enjoying old age with family, they are nursing health complications that are taking a toll on their finances.

11. It makes you unfaithful

A lot of people have found themselves waking up in bed with a stranger, contracting a sexual disease or becoming pregnant or a father due to sexual activities when they are high. A lot of affairs happen this way, threatening good relationships/marriages.

12.It ruins your sex life

Some adults when they drink dont nurture intimacy. They come home drunk and black out on the sofa or in bed as the spouse wonders what happened to the spouse who used to be so affectionate and kissable without alcohol breath. This brings frustration and kills sexual desire. Some, their libido gets inhibited.